every conversation I have had lately has somehow entailed or come full circle to highlight the absence of communication in our relationships. although this emphasis for communication is put heavily on romantic relationships, I have realized that the disparity starts within the platonic relationships within our lives and most importantly stems from the absence of
it is the area where we want to be outwardly sad, soft, weak, hurt and equally LOVED, APPRECIATED & SUPPORTED. it is that safe space, where we can voice where we are struggling and seek support with absolutely NO JUDGEMENT. it is where ‘not (always) being what’s expected‘ is ACCEPTED. it is the Sunday outing
I have gotten present to the fact that every individual on this earth is going through their own pain, trauma, self-doubt, and insecurities. We each have a voice in our heads that seems to get louder by the minute. A voice that invalidates us and cheers us on to do and act in ways that don’t support what we truly desire in life.
I would approach conversations as if I already knew what they were going to say and how they were going to say it, prepared to help, solve and resolve everything for the person I was “listening” to. Unfortunately, this preconceived listening caused me to miss the point most of the time.
Although we don’t consciously realize it, we are constantly operating based on what our parent’s beliefs or ideals are, and in turn, make them our own without ever establishing what is TRUE for us.
As “strong” as I felt in that position, I was actually costing myself the amazing feeling of aliveness by being inauthentic. I was taking away from others the chance to feel needed (in my vulnerability), therefore robbing myself of fulfilling, loving and expressive relationships.
Vulnerability: the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally. This past Saturday night, I attended an evening of lightly intoxicated conversation with about 20 intellectual millennials whose collective purpose is to change the world for the better. The intent of the evening was to
I’m grateful for my termination in Dec 2018 because it led to a domino effect of great life events. Subsequently, I became a full-time realtor with Hudson Gilbert Inc., which is where I met the great marketing mind – Michael Jones of www.bymichaeltodd.com & fitness coach Mackendy Louis, who then enrolled me in Momentum Education.
You see in order to get to happiness, you have to spend an absurd amount of time with yourself.