Whether or not I believed it was true, this feedback was amazingly beneficial in developing who I want to be.
What does it mean to BE? To be you. To be lovable. To be unembarrassed. To be sensitive. To be loyal. To be free. To be your truth. To lose the need to be anything except the true you. To
Although we don't consciously realize it, we are constantly operating based on what our parent's beliefs or ideals are, and in turn, make them our own without ever establishing what is TRUE for us.
my confidence has to be in integrity - meaning that I have to accept 100% of myself...
As "strong" as I felt in that position, I was actually costing myself the amazing feeling of aliveness by being inauthentic. I was taking away from others the chance to feel needed (in my vulnerability), therefore robbing myself of fulfilling, loving and expressive relationships.