Have you been getting in your own way lately?
Do you have opportunities coming your way and you just can’t see how you could make it happen, the way you see it happening, so you say no?
I was just like you a few short months ago – I was saying no to offers that came my way because I didn’t see how I could afford – time, money or mental capacity – to take them on and make them turn out. Instead of saying YES, I would emphatically say NO.
If I didn’t have the money in my bank account, it was impossible.
If I couldn’t drive my car there and find perfect parking, it didn’t make sense.
If it didn’t fit into my perfect schedule of comfort (read: laziness), I wasn’t going.
If I didn’t know how to do something, I would recommend someone else.
Unbeknownst to me, I was thinking, breathing and living a life based on scarcity thinking. I was actually limiting my growth and the trajectory of my life by making decisions based on the past or the limited view of my present. I was actually being INSANE – wanting new results and consistently doing the same things.
The physical things around me started to disappear one by one. First, my bank account started to go dry, and then I learned I had to move out of my apartment and lastly my car was repossessed. It was as if all of the simple things that made me fulfilled (I’m a Cancer, so my home is most important) were being stripped away from me. And during my time of reflection, I was able to see that at the bottom of it, my thinking is what caused it all. Although I carried myself like a BO$$BABE, my actions fell short because my belief in my abilities didn’t match my confidence.
You see, our mind plays major tricks on us. It has us under the impression that our past behaviors, failures, and ways of being will come back to bite us in the a$$. We begin to believe that what happened in the past is an indicator of what will happen in the future. What is most harmful about this way of thinking, is that when we actually believe that those limiting thoughts are reality – we operate out of fear. We say NO to things that will help us grow. We act up when the love of our life enters our atmosphere, thinking we aren’t ready or we will “ruin their lives” and most of all we stunt ourselves and the velocity in which the life we dream of, can become ours.
Changing our current reality to the reality we want is easier than we think.
The Secret Sauce….. I chose ME!
I started saying YES.
I began to say YES to personal development courses when I didn’t know how I’d pay for them. I said YES to trips when I had no idea how I’d get there. I began to say YES to little requests that people made of me, even when my body wanted me to say no. What took things to another level was when I began to operate with a level of integrity (daily challenge) that allowed me to see that where there is integrity there is a possibility.
Most importantly, I began to buy into my own MAGNITUDE; the prowess that everyone outside of my head had already and continuously acknowledged. It was an awakening in me as if a whole new world had appeared in which I am able to truly link my thoughts & my beliefs together. I had always thought of myself as an important person that was UN-FUCKABLE with, however, I didn’t believe that I was capable of all things.
As things began to unfold, I began to understand that saying – “What is meant to be will be”. All around me people began asking to be a part of what I finally chose to take action on. New, genuine and purposeful connections popped out of the most random places and I even began to clearly hear and apply the great advice that my parents had been giving me all along. I began to understand that my story is already written in the finest ink in a Montblanc Fountain Pen and the only person that can get in the way of that, is me.
Instead of repeating the past, I was able to see that I could actually:
Be Confident and create the life I want to live and live it now.
Be Self-Expressed and have people listen to me the way I want to be heard..
Be Risk Taking and make the impossible happen.
Be Happy and determine my own levels of fulfillment.
Be Abundant and have all the material things that make me happy.
Have Fulfilling Relationships that are always a win/win.
Have a Community that wants to support me and my dreams.
Have Freedom to travel when and where I want.
Live A Life I Love
I chose Me, My Happiness and My Inevitable (Future) Success, NOW!
It’s been scary as hell to say yes, without knowing how I’d make things happen. The butterflies have been beyond me.
What I’ve found though, is that it’s even scarier to say no to the things that would propel me to another level in my life because my thinking was limited to what I saw available to me at the moment. That is a predictable, almost certain future that I don’t want to live out.
Say YES to everything and figure out the “HOW” after.
I will be in Atlanta, GA for Memorial Day Weekend at the BYOBRetreat connecting with a group of 2000+ DIVERSE CREATORS, MAKERS & DREAM CHASERS. 10 days ago, I didn’t even know this event existed. Instead of questioning what it was and overthinking HOW I’d get there, I said YES when my friend, chef and soul sister Nicky Marcelin asked – “Do you want my tickets to BYOB for Memorial Day?”
Live Your Best Life Now!