Initially, when I wrote this blog post on March 2019, I was in a totally different mental capacity (searching & seeking) and I was working solely on figuring out myself and my coaching business. Now, almost 3 months later, working on a multitude of projects and confirmed in who I am, it is amazing to come back and see where I have grown. What hasn’t changed is the validity of the picture above that speaks to everyone having a different experience of us as human beings.
Over these past few months, I have confirmed my thoughts that every individual in the world has their own opinion about everything. Opinions, experiences, and feelings, each of which determines how they interact with you. What I also got, is the fact that we as individuals are always growing, evolving and experiencing things that change the way we see and operate in the world.
With that being true, I found it supporting to inquire with my TRIBE about how I was showing up in the world and get their honest opinion about where I could be better, or interestingly enough – be more of who I already am. This inquiry provided an opportunity for me to check in with who I am being and confirm if those ways of being are in alignment with who I proclaim myself to be. The interviews have been short and to the point, however, they brought up things that I didn’t see as descriptive of me, but were someone else’s reality. Although I couldn’t see it, I got into their world so that I could understand it.
Of my initial interviews, the most telling and transformative was the one with my mother. See what my mom had to say HERE.
This week, I endeavored to complete some additional interviews with friends that I now have struck up working relationships with. One being Sheroma Jacobs who is a leader for Design My Tribe x BVI, and the other being Tristin Suggs who is my co-host on our podcast Mahogany & Silk. See the points that stood out to me most below:
You are a visionary. You have this ability to come up with grand ideas on the fly, which is amazing; however, you can be very all over the place when trying to do many things at once. What I see as missing is the focus to organize and get things completed.Sheroma Jacobs
I truly value Sheroma’s feedback because over my 14 days of fasting, I have gotten very clear that the only thing missing from my life is planning. I am skilled, confident and able to to execute, however throwing spaghetti at the wall constantly, instead of throwing spaghetti and believe in it to execute consistently, has prevented me from physically and materially being where I feel I should be.
Don’t get away from being the person that attracted people to you in the first place. We know you as Cuppiii – the fun, nurturing being that always wants the best outcome and pushes people to accomplish their dreams.Tristin Suggs
If you are reading this post and didn’t go to university with me, the reference to “Cuppiii”, won’t make sense, so here’s the background; In college, I was younger than everyone so I couldn’t go to the bars and truly, I had no interest. What I cared about though, was always having people around to get into their worlds and allow them to see their highest potential. My solution – I would consistently have people over and I would sweeten the deal by cooking for them. Thank goodness for the Foodstamps! My apartment was a watering hole – no matter the time of day, if I wasn’t in class, there was a group of people at my place, eating, fellowshipping and have a great time. That was my happy place and it made others happy too!
What I got from interviewing Tristin is that I have to remember that the seed I sewed back in 2008-2010, is still applicable today. The way I connected with people – being free in who I am and nurturing, loving and encouraging people to be themselves, is what established the relationships I have today. He also reminded me that I owe him Jerk Burgers. If you know, YOU KNOW!
In recent years as I have matured and gotten clear on my goals and purpose, I have been battling between what it means to be Cuppiii vs. Sarah Elizabeth Harrigan. Although they are one and the same, I am now in bigger conversations about what it means to build a brand and what fits where. Unfortunately, I was convinced that I had to kill one part of myself in order to thrive as the other. Fortunately and thanks to this interview, I am now clear that I am not one without the other!
Whether I immediately related to the feedback or not, everything that was shared has been amazingly beneficial in the consistent evaluation and development of who I am. Every time I take on this quest, I am required to be vulnerable in ways that are uncomfortable, yet fulfilling. It is an opportunity to learn more about myself and how are others are experiencing me.
Are you wanting to be the very best version of yourself? I challenge you to take on interviewing people around you – old & new because there is nothing more fulfilling than the results you can create from their honest sharing.
When You Know Better, You Do Better.
Ready to conduct a few interviews? Use the format below in order to complete your interviews effectively. Share with me what comes up for you, by sending an email to firstname.lastname@example.org. Subject: Learning Who I Am.